Nonconforming to social Norms 

Human beings are conformists by nature. We tend to do things the way most people do to fit in and be accepted by society. Conformity is in our genes and even when we do not fully agree with some of society’s norms, we generally toe the line as it is the safer thing to do. We seek approval, avoid rejection, and are guided by social norms.

However, conformists too sometimes deviate from the straight and narrow in order to escape societal pressures. This practice nowadays is considered normal. Nonconforming to social norms is a continuous deviation from the way things are normally done. It is, for instance, where you dye your hair pink and wear it this way not just because its cancer awareness week or, a man who will only wear takkies even if he is dressing up in a suit.

Conformists ironically, very often appreciate non-conformity albeit primarily for amusement or entertainment purposes and not necessarily, because it is something they would do themselves. The most common example of this is our appreciation for artists in the music industry. 50 Cent, Lady Gaga, Cardi B and Nicki Minaj are very unconventional artists, all very successful with millions of passionate fans. Yet not too many of their millions of followers will necessarily conduct themselves the way they do. It is easier and safer just to watch and admire from a distance. This too, I suppose, offers some kind of escape from the humdrum of a conventional lifestyle.

Nonconformity must never be confused with breaking the law or disobeying the rules and regulations of an institution or a public space. Being late for work or school is not nonconformity; it is plainly inconsiderate and ill-mannered. Smoking in a non-smoking area is simply selfish and unacceptable. Swearing at the top of your voice in a public park or the schoolyard is improper and inappropriate. Talking at assembly or at the movies is impolite. Always have a sense of occasion and behave fittingly.

There is always a time and place for you to act and behave in a manner that you please without contravening the law. For example, if you don’t subscribe to school uniforms then find a school that will accommodate that wish. Abbotts College offers that option. As a student, you are able to display your individuality like nowhere else. Individuality is always appreciated, admired and respected. It is taken as a breath of fresh air that teachers look forward to and embrace in the classroom. Again, however, while individuality is aligned with being a non-conformist, it is never confused with what is right and what is wrong.