Are you okay?
Ms C Martens • August 26, 2020

It seems like a simple enough question, consisting of three simple words. Responses like: ‘Yes, I am fine’ or: ‘No, I am not okay’ might be enough, under normal circumstances, but nothing around us is normal now. Our lives have changed drastically.
When a total lockdown was announced in March of this year, none of us really realized what the implications of that was going to be. Three weeks seemed like a reasonable time to be isolated. The three weeks turned into five and then it turned into Day 100-and something. Things that came so naturally to us, like hugging a friend, visiting family, or going to the movies, are now forbidden. Birthdays and other celebrations now happen via Skype or Zoom, and we all must keep a 1,5-meter distance from each other. This is not normal for any human being.
The entire school environment has changed. Faces of smiling and laughing students are now hidden behind masks. Hands and desks need to be sanitised ever so often and many students prefer to attend classes online, rather than physical classes.
Will we ever be okay again? Is what we are currently experiencing, our ‘new normal’? To the first question I would like to answer: ‘For sure!’ and to the second one: ‘Hopefully not!” - I cannot imagine never seeing the friendly smiles, that are now hidden behind masks, from my students again. We as teachers have certainly learnt to adapt during these challenging times. As adults we need to understand that children and adults do not handle situations like this the same. Children need to know that they are safe – whether they are at school or at home – and we (as parents and teachers) should make sure that they feel safe and, even if we have our own doubts and worries.
Practicing positive thinking in these trying times is not an easy thing to do, but in the end staying positive is going to be our saving grace. We all need to focus on what is still good and beautiful in the world.
“When we take the time to stop, look, observe, we see beauty all around us.” Sr Stan
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As the preliminary and final examinations approach, both students and parents or guardians often experience heightened anxiety and stress. This guide provides practical strategies to help parents and guardians support their children through this critical phase of their academic journey. 1. Foster Effective Organization Create an environment conducive to studying by providing a quiet, well-lit study space equipped with essential stationery. Collaborate with your child to develop a structured study timetable to set clear expectations and promote disciplined preparation. Encourage the use of resources such as past question papers, which serve as valuable tools for revision and practice. 2. Maintain Daily Check-Ins Schedule regular, intentional conversations, such as during dinner, to discuss your child’s progress. Inquire about their experience with the day’s examination paper, adherence to their study schedule, and their feelings about upcoming tests. These check-ins foster open communication and allow you to gauge their emotional and academic state. 3. Minimize Distractions Help your child stay focused by keeping electronic devices like phones, tablets, and gaming consoles out of reach during study sessions. Set boundaries on screen time and social media access to prevent procrastination. While challenging, limiting Wi-Fi access during study hours can significantly enhance productivity. 4. Support Emotional Awareness Encourage your child to identify and articulate their emotions, such as anxiety, stress, or fatigue . Recognizing these feelings is the first step toward addressing them effectively. Discuss coping strategies to help them navigate emotional challenges during this period. 5. Teach Self-Regulation Techniques Guide your child in practicing self-regulation to manage stress. Techniques include: Breathing Exercises : Inhale deeply for four seconds, hold for four seconds, exhale for four seconds, and repeat. Sensory Focus : Identify five things they can see or hear to ground themselves in the moment. Tactile Stimulation : Hold a cold object to shift focus and reduce anxiety. These methods can help your child regain calm and focus during stressful moments. 6. Promote a Balanced Routine Prolonged study sessions late into the night can lead to burnout. Monitor your child’s study habits and encourage breaks to maintain balance. Plan activities such as outings with friends, a family meal, or short recreational periods with access to devices. Engaging in non-academic activities, like helping prepare dinner, can provide a refreshing change of focus. 7. Prioritize Self-Care Support your child’s well-being by ensuring they: Eat nutritious, regular meals. Get at least eight hours of sleep by limiting screen time before bed. Engage in physical activities such as walking, jogging, yoga, dancing, or gym workouts. These practices help alleviate stress and anxiety, which are common during examination periods. 8. Practice Empathy and Patience The examination period can be emotionally taxing for both students and parents. Approach your child with empathy, actively listening and offering guidance without criticism. This fosters a supportive environment, bolstering their mental health and sense of inclusion. By implementing these strategies, parents and guardians can play a pivotal role in helping their children navigate the challenges of examinations with confidence and resilience. Good luck to all the Grade 12 students with the upcoming examinations - you most certainly can do it!










